Happy Holidays?
Its been so long since I took the time to write in my blog. I guess I never make "me time" like I should. I'm going to rectify that asap.
Tonight is Christmas Eve. Christmas has always been my favorite holiday. Not for what I get, but I find great joy in giving to others. It makes me happy to make others happy. Of course I have to deal with my own personal blues this time of year, but after so many days of knowing loneliness, its like slipping into a pair of old jeans. They are a little scratchy but familiar.
This Christmas is different. My partner does not celebrate Christmas-she does not really believe in the story of Jesus. She says she is spiritual, not religious. I have no problem with her beliefs, everyone is entitled to believe whatever their heart tells them to believe.
What makes it hard is that no matter how hard I try to keep my spirits up, she keeps bringing them down. She is so critical of everything-me, my son, my housekeeping, his manners. I am starting to document every critical thing she says in comparison to the positive assessments that she makes. For example--I cleaned everything after I worked a full day on her business. She didnt even acknowledge it. But she made a point to mention that my son left a glass downstairs, that he mixed up the recycling...She doesn't say anything about all of the housework he does-how clean his room is, how well he cleans the living room or how he does whatever we ask him to without any problem.
It makes me sad, because he has had such a hard life and he is really trying to get his life on track. I have to constantly tell him to do this and do that-little nitpicky things. Today she said he had horrible manners and all he did was come into the room (the door was open) without knocking. She said this with a mouthful of food. She always talks with a mouthful of food-I keep telling her that bothers me but then she gets irritated...so I just shut up.
Just shut up...That seems to be the mantra of my life. I just shut up. No matter what she says to me, I just shut up. No matter how many little things she finds to criticise, I just shut up. It makes life easier. Im always "overly sensitive" if I say something. Or Im being protective, or not listening, or just plain wrong. I don't know how I can be wrong all the time.
I mean, Im wrong about every single thing. If I find what is in my opinion a better place to put something, Im wrong. If I try to organize things, Im wrong. Its like I don't know anything-like Im some hood version of Eliza Doolittle. She thinks I never had anything, never gave my kids anything...And its so not true.
No matter what I say, she never believes me. I tried to tell her we come from a middle class family, that I had lots of advantages. I tried to explain how when things went south, I fought through. My kids never suffered. It wasn't easy, I made tons of mistakes....
But I guess the lesson I have to learn is to stop explaining and complaining and crying. Last year, when things went badly, I got off my buttocks and got 2 jobs-I worked myself to death and figured out a way to make it. Its time to do that again. Past time. I had to sacrifice some of the things that I wanted, in order to make it happen. Its that time again. This time, Im starting out way behind the 8ball. Wayyyy behind. I don't have any savings, I don't have a job. What needs to happen is I need a JOB right now.
I tried to apply everywhere-even Target-and nothing. After the beginning of the year, I need to find something. I have to sacrifice Olivia, thats just how it has to be. I need to be in my own space by March. I need to set my goals and hit the goals. I need to do something. My life is in a sad limbo and its not the life I am supposed to live.
My mistake-my poor judgement-I need to pay the consequences. But not my kids. Its not too late to make things right where they are concerned. Here are my goals and a timeline.
January--Find 2 jobs that equate to bringing home $2500 a month
February--Pay off any open credit cards (income tax time...)
March--Find apartment here in Vallejo or near jobs
April--Find a 3rd job if needed and start preparing to relocate unless the job is pretty good.
I also will lose 40lbs between now and April. That is my vow.
Ok, in the course of writing in my blog tonite, Im also on a quest to drink an entire bottle of red wine. Its starting to kick in, so I must go now.
Later,
DY
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Alone
Today's Mood: Invisible
Today is the anniversary of the death of my grandmother, Priscilla W. Rumley. She was the best person in the world, the only person who was all mine. She loved me unconditionally, more completely than anyone ever has before. I miss her so much.
Today is especially hard because I feel so alone. Alone. That word is powerful and encompasses everything that is me, at this moment. This is a feeling I wouldnt wish on anyone. To know that while there are some people out there who may listen to you, they may care for you, there is no one, No One person who is all for you. That if there is a problem, you can only depend on you? To know that there is not one person thinking of you, caring for you just because.
My Grandmother saved me from so many things. She was there for me when my mother made me feel small. She was there when I was promiscuous-and helped me live through that. I never told her why I was acting out, but I think she knows that something happened to me in my childhood. She has to know, she was always so gentle with me. Yes, she could get feisty when she needed to, and she didnt take any stuff from me or anyone else. But I always, always knew she was for me.
I sit here thinking about this relationship that I am in. I am 99.9% sure its not going to work. I have done everything I can, tried to be there, tried to cook, clean, praise, love, support.....Even after I found out how she betrayed my trust, I still swallowed the pain and just tried to make it work.
A good friend sent me an email and what it basically said is that if you are thinking about leaving, if you are unhappy, then you need to get out of the relationship because its already done. I know that. I am concerned about the stability of my son. He is happy here. I think about all of the things that I need to do to be able to provide a stable home for him and its daunting. I can't just uproot him with no plan. Its just too much.
On this day, I think about my Grandmother, I kinda smile and I think of what she would say if she was here. She would say "Girl come home, we will work it out". I don't have a home to go to, I have nobody holding that security blanket, warm and welcoming. Its just me, in the cold, standing here holding myself as tightly as I can trying to find some sense of connection.
A while ago, when this time of year would roll around, I would do stupid things-like cosy up with someone I didnt really want-out of the feelings of loneliness. That will not happen again. I am getting stronger, but the feelings, man. Its tough. I have to maintain hope that one day somebody will welcome me into their arms and wrap me up. They will let me know that they accept me and my faults, they don't judge my past, they see the light in me that my Grandmother fought so hard to keep from being extinguished.
I love you GiGi, and miss you terribly.
D
Today is the anniversary of the death of my grandmother, Priscilla W. Rumley. She was the best person in the world, the only person who was all mine. She loved me unconditionally, more completely than anyone ever has before. I miss her so much.
Today is especially hard because I feel so alone. Alone. That word is powerful and encompasses everything that is me, at this moment. This is a feeling I wouldnt wish on anyone. To know that while there are some people out there who may listen to you, they may care for you, there is no one, No One person who is all for you. That if there is a problem, you can only depend on you? To know that there is not one person thinking of you, caring for you just because.
My Grandmother saved me from so many things. She was there for me when my mother made me feel small. She was there when I was promiscuous-and helped me live through that. I never told her why I was acting out, but I think she knows that something happened to me in my childhood. She has to know, she was always so gentle with me. Yes, she could get feisty when she needed to, and she didnt take any stuff from me or anyone else. But I always, always knew she was for me.
I sit here thinking about this relationship that I am in. I am 99.9% sure its not going to work. I have done everything I can, tried to be there, tried to cook, clean, praise, love, support.....Even after I found out how she betrayed my trust, I still swallowed the pain and just tried to make it work.
A good friend sent me an email and what it basically said is that if you are thinking about leaving, if you are unhappy, then you need to get out of the relationship because its already done. I know that. I am concerned about the stability of my son. He is happy here. I think about all of the things that I need to do to be able to provide a stable home for him and its daunting. I can't just uproot him with no plan. Its just too much.
On this day, I think about my Grandmother, I kinda smile and I think of what she would say if she was here. She would say "Girl come home, we will work it out". I don't have a home to go to, I have nobody holding that security blanket, warm and welcoming. Its just me, in the cold, standing here holding myself as tightly as I can trying to find some sense of connection.
A while ago, when this time of year would roll around, I would do stupid things-like cosy up with someone I didnt really want-out of the feelings of loneliness. That will not happen again. I am getting stronger, but the feelings, man. Its tough. I have to maintain hope that one day somebody will welcome me into their arms and wrap me up. They will let me know that they accept me and my faults, they don't judge my past, they see the light in me that my Grandmother fought so hard to keep from being extinguished.
I love you GiGi, and miss you terribly.
D
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Another Day
Its another day in the life of me. I have had a lot of time to think about this situation. After last night, I have been contemplative, wondering what is happening in my world, what to do, how to resolve the situation that I find myself in.
I spent the whole day working hard on projects with my headphones on, letting my favorite songs lift my spirits. I talked with a couple of friends. Its hard sharing my fears and angst with others. I don't want to be that whiny girl who is moody one day and all gaga in love the next. I don't want them to think badly of her if we do work it out. But its hard. Its so hard to be in this place alone. Sharing helps.
I feel numb today. Im not really sad, Im not happy, Im just here. My day is just here. Things have to get better, I feel like I am becoming a shadow of myself. Im usually so happy and full of joy. Today, if I could stay in the bed, I would.
I am only allowing myself a few more minutes of self-pity. This is not who I am. I have to find something to hold onto, to pull me out of this funky pit. Love sux.
Anyway, since I am boring myself, I will end today's post right here. Tomorrow will be a better day. I will be stronger and have all of my armor in place.
Til then,
D
I spent the whole day working hard on projects with my headphones on, letting my favorite songs lift my spirits. I talked with a couple of friends. Its hard sharing my fears and angst with others. I don't want to be that whiny girl who is moody one day and all gaga in love the next. I don't want them to think badly of her if we do work it out. But its hard. Its so hard to be in this place alone. Sharing helps.
I feel numb today. Im not really sad, Im not happy, Im just here. My day is just here. Things have to get better, I feel like I am becoming a shadow of myself. Im usually so happy and full of joy. Today, if I could stay in the bed, I would.
I am only allowing myself a few more minutes of self-pity. This is not who I am. I have to find something to hold onto, to pull me out of this funky pit. Love sux.
Anyway, since I am boring myself, I will end today's post right here. Tomorrow will be a better day. I will be stronger and have all of my armor in place.
Til then,
D
Interesting
This is the first time in a lonnng time that I wrote in my blog. Everything has happened that can happen.
Its time to get started writing again. My soul is feeling traumatized in so many ways.
Catching up, I have a relationship that is all my own. In a lot of ways I feel like I sold my soul to the devil. I met someone, we fell hard for each other. I gave up everything that I had to be with her. Now, Im stuck in so many ways.
I have nothing, no job, no home, nothing. I know this woman loves me but I also think she is insane, or at least out of touch.
My problem with her is that she has no clue as to what is happening around her. She lives in the past, when she was famous. My trial is how to help her realize that she is not famous now. How to help her find a way to support herself and potentially our family should she no longer be able to work in her current field.
I feel like she will never understand me, and I will never understand her. Its saddening to me. We keep finding little pockets of love. They glow and shimmer, calling us into the depths. Then once they flicker out, we are left on the islands of acceptance. Where we live a life of bland.
I just don't know what to do. She is so unlike me, so unlike anyone I have encountered. In some ways she has made me better. She has made me better, made me evaluate the person that I am. In others, she has totally changed me. Im less outspoken. I hold my words and feelings inside because I never know whats going to set her off. I let my feelings simmer below the surface and allow her to lavish her sentiments-good and bad-all over me like the ocean closing over my head. At times I do feel like Im drowning, but what are the options? I know that when she finishes her tirades, she will hold out an arm and pull me back into a rocky, yet safe boat.
Things are happening around me, things I cannot even begin to address. I try not to see them, try not to seek out the solace that is being offered to me. Part of me wonders if it is Divine intervention. Are these lights being placed in my path to illuminate the shadows of my world? Are they here to show me just what exactly is in the dark spaces of this relationship? Are they being given to me as beacons, beacons I should follow to a different space?
I am so very tired. How long can a person live a life like this? How long can a person stifle their true self in order to keep the peace? Its not healthy, and I know it, but what are the options.
That is my moody blue re-entry into the world of my blog. I will try to write more often. Its ironic that today marks the day after my 40th birthday. It is a time of change. I should be preparing to retire. I should be settled and married. I should own a home, and be with the person I love, cherish and respect. I do love her, I am just not sure we are to be. Time alone will tell.
Its time to get started writing again. My soul is feeling traumatized in so many ways.
Catching up, I have a relationship that is all my own. In a lot of ways I feel like I sold my soul to the devil. I met someone, we fell hard for each other. I gave up everything that I had to be with her. Now, Im stuck in so many ways.
I have nothing, no job, no home, nothing. I know this woman loves me but I also think she is insane, or at least out of touch.
My problem with her is that she has no clue as to what is happening around her. She lives in the past, when she was famous. My trial is how to help her realize that she is not famous now. How to help her find a way to support herself and potentially our family should she no longer be able to work in her current field.
I feel like she will never understand me, and I will never understand her. Its saddening to me. We keep finding little pockets of love. They glow and shimmer, calling us into the depths. Then once they flicker out, we are left on the islands of acceptance. Where we live a life of bland.
I just don't know what to do. She is so unlike me, so unlike anyone I have encountered. In some ways she has made me better. She has made me better, made me evaluate the person that I am. In others, she has totally changed me. Im less outspoken. I hold my words and feelings inside because I never know whats going to set her off. I let my feelings simmer below the surface and allow her to lavish her sentiments-good and bad-all over me like the ocean closing over my head. At times I do feel like Im drowning, but what are the options? I know that when she finishes her tirades, she will hold out an arm and pull me back into a rocky, yet safe boat.
Things are happening around me, things I cannot even begin to address. I try not to see them, try not to seek out the solace that is being offered to me. Part of me wonders if it is Divine intervention. Are these lights being placed in my path to illuminate the shadows of my world? Are they here to show me just what exactly is in the dark spaces of this relationship? Are they being given to me as beacons, beacons I should follow to a different space?
I am so very tired. How long can a person live a life like this? How long can a person stifle their true self in order to keep the peace? Its not healthy, and I know it, but what are the options.
That is my moody blue re-entry into the world of my blog. I will try to write more often. Its ironic that today marks the day after my 40th birthday. It is a time of change. I should be preparing to retire. I should be settled and married. I should own a home, and be with the person I love, cherish and respect. I do love her, I am just not sure we are to be. Time alone will tell.
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Wow More Thoughts
Today's Mood: Weird, Happy, Irritated
I guess today is another Bi-Polar Day. I am in a great mood. I am also really feeling conflicted about a couple of things. More on that in a few minutes. Im irritated because of my job. We are short staffed already and my boss knew he and our admin asst. were going to be out of the office most of today and tomorrow. Now, I personally don't have much to do but I get so aggravated answering the phones all day. The main reason it drives me nuts is because I dont work in the temp area so I dont know the answers to any of their questions. It sux. On top of that we have a big corporate visitor tomorrow, so all the trifling things that they never do up front have to be fixed. They have known about this visit for a week......So now instead of getting someone in yesterday to train a little and be ready to roll today, they are rushing to get someone in this afternoon. I hate disorganization.
So why the confusion? Im a little disconcerted by the way I feel in regards to a conversation I had with my ex last night. We have been keeping in touch with each other, trying to develop a friendship. Over the last few weeks, I have been really missing her. Missing the things that we used to do together, the fun we used to have. I feel as if the girls that I have dated have not measured up to her. They are all lacking something that she brought to the table. Now Im not foolish enough to only remember the good parts of our relationship. I know we both kinda sucked. But there are still feelings there.
So our talk-it was interesting. She expressed that she was so in love with her girlfriend. That they would be together for life. That was her "Baby". But in every other breath she was talking about how much she missed me and how I meant so very much to her.
I guess if you really care about someone, the feelings never die. I feel like I have to walk a tightrope here. Its tricky because I know, I KNOW, in my heart, that if I wanted to lure her back I could easily do it. I know she has a soft spot for me and I know she regrets mucking up our relationship. But she is allegedly happy now, happier than she has been in her life. She has the perfect wifey, quiet, easygoing, no kids, etc. She has the perfect life. Im not going to bring that to the table. My world is chaotic, ever changing. Exciting, yes. Peaceful, sometimes. I don't think its worth the trade, unless we are truly meant to be together. And if we are, we will come together when the timing is right.
Which in essence was the entire problem from the start. I had battle wounds, she had battle wounds. Neither of us had healing time before we got together. Our timing was so far off, yet we tried to make it work. Thats never a great idea. I just hope that one or both of us use good common sense and dont get too distracted with the idea of forbidden love blossoming again.
That leads up to Baby. Im trying to decide if I even want to keep in touch with her at all. Our communications are so distant and cold. I will deal with her on a professional level. Im not sure we will ever be true friends again. I don't understand how you can turn off real feelings. As I said before, I feel as if she didnt truly love me, she was infatuated. If she did love me, she never would have left me when I was not ok. She would have been there, and she would have understood how much I really needed her. I needed her compassion, her shoulder. You know, Im always getting hurt when I bend a little and try to lean on one of these women. Every single time.
I have had so many issues with trust, and then every time I try to come out of the box and try-I am dropped on the floor again and again. Do I just give up? Do I stop even letting them see any fragility? I dont know what to do but self-preservation says do not lean on anyone ever.
So about the ex-what to do? Nothing. I just have to sit back in the cut. I know she is going to take 2 steps towards me and 3 steps back. She did that when we were together, so why change now? Im not going there, though.
I met this new person online. Im scared of her. She seems to be exactly EXACTLY what I have been asking for. I have not met her in person, but Im frightened to death. What if she is the one? She has more qualities that I look for than anyone Ive met. With my great luck she will not be interested in me once we meet. Im not going to met her for a month. I need to work my fat butt out before I meet someone like her. She is so fine!!
Anyway, Im going to go now. The phones in this office are ringing like crazy. I will give you more info tomorrow.
Ciao!
I guess today is another Bi-Polar Day. I am in a great mood. I am also really feeling conflicted about a couple of things. More on that in a few minutes. Im irritated because of my job. We are short staffed already and my boss knew he and our admin asst. were going to be out of the office most of today and tomorrow. Now, I personally don't have much to do but I get so aggravated answering the phones all day. The main reason it drives me nuts is because I dont work in the temp area so I dont know the answers to any of their questions. It sux. On top of that we have a big corporate visitor tomorrow, so all the trifling things that they never do up front have to be fixed. They have known about this visit for a week......So now instead of getting someone in yesterday to train a little and be ready to roll today, they are rushing to get someone in this afternoon. I hate disorganization.
So why the confusion? Im a little disconcerted by the way I feel in regards to a conversation I had with my ex last night. We have been keeping in touch with each other, trying to develop a friendship. Over the last few weeks, I have been really missing her. Missing the things that we used to do together, the fun we used to have. I feel as if the girls that I have dated have not measured up to her. They are all lacking something that she brought to the table. Now Im not foolish enough to only remember the good parts of our relationship. I know we both kinda sucked. But there are still feelings there.
So our talk-it was interesting. She expressed that she was so in love with her girlfriend. That they would be together for life. That was her "Baby". But in every other breath she was talking about how much she missed me and how I meant so very much to her.
I guess if you really care about someone, the feelings never die. I feel like I have to walk a tightrope here. Its tricky because I know, I KNOW, in my heart, that if I wanted to lure her back I could easily do it. I know she has a soft spot for me and I know she regrets mucking up our relationship. But she is allegedly happy now, happier than she has been in her life. She has the perfect wifey, quiet, easygoing, no kids, etc. She has the perfect life. Im not going to bring that to the table. My world is chaotic, ever changing. Exciting, yes. Peaceful, sometimes. I don't think its worth the trade, unless we are truly meant to be together. And if we are, we will come together when the timing is right.
Which in essence was the entire problem from the start. I had battle wounds, she had battle wounds. Neither of us had healing time before we got together. Our timing was so far off, yet we tried to make it work. Thats never a great idea. I just hope that one or both of us use good common sense and dont get too distracted with the idea of forbidden love blossoming again.
That leads up to Baby. Im trying to decide if I even want to keep in touch with her at all. Our communications are so distant and cold. I will deal with her on a professional level. Im not sure we will ever be true friends again. I don't understand how you can turn off real feelings. As I said before, I feel as if she didnt truly love me, she was infatuated. If she did love me, she never would have left me when I was not ok. She would have been there, and she would have understood how much I really needed her. I needed her compassion, her shoulder. You know, Im always getting hurt when I bend a little and try to lean on one of these women. Every single time.
I have had so many issues with trust, and then every time I try to come out of the box and try-I am dropped on the floor again and again. Do I just give up? Do I stop even letting them see any fragility? I dont know what to do but self-preservation says do not lean on anyone ever.
So about the ex-what to do? Nothing. I just have to sit back in the cut. I know she is going to take 2 steps towards me and 3 steps back. She did that when we were together, so why change now? Im not going there, though.
I met this new person online. Im scared of her. She seems to be exactly EXACTLY what I have been asking for. I have not met her in person, but Im frightened to death. What if she is the one? She has more qualities that I look for than anyone Ive met. With my great luck she will not be interested in me once we meet. Im not going to met her for a month. I need to work my fat butt out before I meet someone like her. She is so fine!!
Anyway, Im going to go now. The phones in this office are ringing like crazy. I will give you more info tomorrow.
Ciao!
Wednesday, October 3, 2007
A Vanilla Day
Today's Mood-Pretty Happy
Today was an absolutely vanilla day. Nothing special happened. Nothing bad, nothing good. I dont feel especially buckwild joy and I dont feel any type of sorrow. I didn't work hard, but I wasnt bored. Just a vanilla day.
I had a good time playing around on Yahoo Personals. I saw a couple of cuties and sent them some messages. Who knows if they will reply. I don't even really care-lol.
Thats about it for now. Hopefully tomorrow will be more colorful.
Bye-
Today was an absolutely vanilla day. Nothing special happened. Nothing bad, nothing good. I dont feel especially buckwild joy and I dont feel any type of sorrow. I didn't work hard, but I wasnt bored. Just a vanilla day.
I had a good time playing around on Yahoo Personals. I saw a couple of cuties and sent them some messages. Who knows if they will reply. I don't even really care-lol.
Thats about it for now. Hopefully tomorrow will be more colorful.
Bye-
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Big Thangs Poppin
Today's Mood: Fabulous
Ok where to start?
I indulged myself last night with sushi and wine. And a little more wine. It was excellent. I got in the bed fairly early and slept like a baby. This morning, I woke up refreshed-ah the difference between real wine and that stuff in a box...I digress...lol
I checked my email from my cell, why? I dont know. I never check it in the morning. What do I see but a LONG email from Olivia. It was asking for more input from me and offering much more support! Of course it put a huge smile on my face. So I bounced out of bed like I was 21 again and headed in to work. Yuck. Ok, I admit that I am over this job. But, I will hang on to it until something better, equal, other comes along.
So Im sitting here pissed because my big boss is being a butt...a sure sign that Im heading out the door, but still dont aggravate me while Im on my way...lol As my brows furrow deeper, I get a call on my cell. What tha? Its a San Fran area code, not a bill collector! So I answer and lo! Its the owner of Olivia, calling to see how Im doing!! Making sure that Im ok. WOW! So now I ask myself, am I about to kick off and somebody called Make-A-Wish Foundation on my behalf? I don't think so.
After a while I was able to close my mouth and stop drooling. I love those girls over there soooo much. They seem to know exactly when Im getting irritated. Dealing with these black women is often a trial. A royal pain in the buttocks. But they are really reaching out. So now I have to find a couple of other women of color who-the horrors-get an all expense paid 7 day cruise. The bad part is I don't want to find anyone who is already booked because that would be stupid. They would have to get a refund. Most of the people I know are already booked. So I have a little work cut out for me.
Guess what else? I heard from CD. She has been downgraded from Baby-lol. Our communications have been like two strangers. And thats being generous. I dont think she ever loved me, I think it was infatuation. Oh well, Im not crying about it. Thats the way life is. We are all wired with a defect-we do not have that chip that lets us discern what is real love and what is bogus until we are done with the person. I know I loved her, I know she was the first person I truly loved. Too bad.
Im smart enough to know that my heart has to break a few times. Karma owes me for the hearts Ive broken and the things I have done that were not right. I guess Im in trouble because normally I dont invest any of my inner self in these relationships. I went all the way with her, and a little deeper than normal with G. Im glad I have had the space to throttle back now. Hopefully my wall is reinforced now and I dont have to worry about ever getting hurt again. At least not for a while.
Ah life is good for now. I will keep you posted as new things transpire.
Til lata,
D
Ok where to start?
I indulged myself last night with sushi and wine. And a little more wine. It was excellent. I got in the bed fairly early and slept like a baby. This morning, I woke up refreshed-ah the difference between real wine and that stuff in a box...I digress...lol
I checked my email from my cell, why? I dont know. I never check it in the morning. What do I see but a LONG email from Olivia. It was asking for more input from me and offering much more support! Of course it put a huge smile on my face. So I bounced out of bed like I was 21 again and headed in to work. Yuck. Ok, I admit that I am over this job. But, I will hang on to it until something better, equal, other comes along.
So Im sitting here pissed because my big boss is being a butt...a sure sign that Im heading out the door, but still dont aggravate me while Im on my way...lol As my brows furrow deeper, I get a call on my cell. What tha? Its a San Fran area code, not a bill collector! So I answer and lo! Its the owner of Olivia, calling to see how Im doing!! Making sure that Im ok. WOW! So now I ask myself, am I about to kick off and somebody called Make-A-Wish Foundation on my behalf? I don't think so.
After a while I was able to close my mouth and stop drooling. I love those girls over there soooo much. They seem to know exactly when Im getting irritated. Dealing with these black women is often a trial. A royal pain in the buttocks. But they are really reaching out. So now I have to find a couple of other women of color who-the horrors-get an all expense paid 7 day cruise. The bad part is I don't want to find anyone who is already booked because that would be stupid. They would have to get a refund. Most of the people I know are already booked. So I have a little work cut out for me.
Guess what else? I heard from CD. She has been downgraded from Baby-lol. Our communications have been like two strangers. And thats being generous. I dont think she ever loved me, I think it was infatuation. Oh well, Im not crying about it. Thats the way life is. We are all wired with a defect-we do not have that chip that lets us discern what is real love and what is bogus until we are done with the person. I know I loved her, I know she was the first person I truly loved. Too bad.
Im smart enough to know that my heart has to break a few times. Karma owes me for the hearts Ive broken and the things I have done that were not right. I guess Im in trouble because normally I dont invest any of my inner self in these relationships. I went all the way with her, and a little deeper than normal with G. Im glad I have had the space to throttle back now. Hopefully my wall is reinforced now and I dont have to worry about ever getting hurt again. At least not for a while.
Ah life is good for now. I will keep you posted as new things transpire.
Til lata,
D
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